Good Question: What to Do After an Afternoon Wedding?

Wendy writes:

I'm getting married Nov. 1st and we're on a smaller budget so decided to have a luncheon reception. It will be in a hotel north of Vegas which has a nice reception area. What have you heard people doing afterwards if the wedding is over by 3:30 or 4? just curious b/c now we're not going on a honeymoon right after. I'm not sure if the guests will just leave? I've ever been to a lunchtime wedding so any thoughts you could send my way would be appreciated.

Wendy, just like any wedding, you can signal to guests that it's time to leave. Whether it's clearing the food and setting out coffee and dessert, or having the DJ announce that this will be his final song, most guests will get the picture. Also, if the bride and groom make a big deal of their departure, most guests will leave shortly afterwards. (Check out my Wedding Reception Timeline for a schedule of when the departure and last song happen.) As for what to do that evening, it depends on if you envision your wedding night being a romantic evening just the two of you, or a chance to visit some more with out-of-town friends. I'd probably plan an intimate dinner at a restaurant with my husband, perhaps a couples massage or other spa treatment, and a night in a hotel. But if you're looking to catch up with friends, tell them, "We're going to be hanging out at this casual restaurant/bar tonight. We'd love to see you guys if you're around." That extends the invitation without implying that you'll pick up their tab. And if you're really the social type, you could always organize a post-wedding casual party , BYOB-style. It will be a chance to dance and laugh without some of the more staid relatives watching! Hope this helps! Nina.