Men's wedding rings are somewhat of a new phenomenon. Most likely your grandfathers didn't wear one, yet most modern men do. Vintage and antique ring sets rarely include a band for the groom - only the engagement ring and wedding band for the bride. Why did this trend happen? It was the war.
In the United States, it was very rare for a groom to receive a ring before World War II. Yet, during the war, rings became symbols of wives left at home, and their popularity soared. Post-war prosperity allowed even more couples to afford this extra piece of jewelry, and eventually it became the standard. Ever since then, more and more married men each year choose to wear a man's wedding ring.
Certainly you are not required to have a ring, but it will be a comfort when your love is far away, a reminder when temptation is high, and a symbol of pride to the world that you are a married man. In some communities, there is stigma about the man who chooses not to wear a ring. They may see bare hands as a sign of wanting to cheat, or a sign of someone who is less committed. When Prince William and Kate Middleton announced that only she would wear a wedding ring
, many were shocked. Several gossip websites called him sketchy, or sleezy, and it led the New York Times
to question other couples about how it made them feel.
For those who are unsure if it will feel comfortable, purchase an inexpensive ring and try it on for a week or so. It will most likely feel uncomfortable and strange at first, but as the week goes on, it will feel more natural. Most guys start off finding it very strange, but soon forget they have one on. Look for the label "comfort fit" (rounded edges that prevent the ring from cutting into your hand) and make sure that it is the right size for you, especially if your hands swell in the heat.
If you think of jewelry as a girl's thing, fear not. Your ring need not be effeminate. Most men's wedding rings are simple wide bands that would never be confused with women's jewelry. On the contrary, such a ring can add to look of strength of your hands. Ask your jeweler to assist you with styles that will most compliment your hand.
If you're still uncomfortable with the idea of wearing a ring everyday, perhaps you'll want to purchase a watch or pendant that has a phrase from your sweetheart engraved on it.
You could also consider a tattooed wedding ring.