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What Does RSVP Mean?

A Definition of RSVPS meaning, FAQs, and Etiquette.


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The meaning of RSVP in English is Please Respond. It literally is a French abbreviation for R&eacutepondez Vous Sil Vous Plaît or "respond you please". On a wedding invitation, the meaning of writing RSVP is that the couple is asking you to reply promptly, typically using an enclosed response card. Sometimes they'll ask you to respond by telephone or email. You can also reply on your own stationery, which is the most formal and traditional method. Find out more about RSVP card wording

Does RSVP Mean You Have to Respond If You Can't Attend?

RSVP means respond either way. An engaged couple need to know as soon as possible if you can or can't be there. They've probably had to make hard choices about their guest list, and they may be waiting to see how many of their original invitees decline before sending out a few additional invitations.

Why You Need to RSVP On Time

You'll often see, "RSVP By [a certain date]" or, "The favour of a reply is requested by [a certain date]." Your hosts have selected the date that allows them to have enough time to plan and prepare. They need to know in advance how many seats, tables, programs, and favors they'll need. Most importantly, caterers require exact numbers, and charge extra for last minute changes. Ideally, you'll have responded as soon as possible, long before that date.

What If You Don't Know If You Can Be There?

Sometimes the RSVP date comes and you still don't know if you'll be able to be there. You may still be trying to find affordable travel arrangements, a babysitter, or time off from work. When I'm in this situation, 9 times out of 10 I decline. My reasoning is that if I truly wanted to be there, I would have figured out a way long before the deadline. If they're close friends, I'll phone the hosts with profuse apologies, explain the situation, and ask if the reply date has any flexibility. That way they're not forced to track me down, or wonder if I'm coming. However, this approach should be used with discretion. If every guest asked for flexibility, the hosts would be completely overwhelmed.

The Bottom Line

RSVP means please respond, and that's exactly what you should do. Tell them that you've received their invitation, and let them know if you'll be there as soon as possible. Nobody likes to be kept waiting, especially for something as important as their wedding.

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