The Mother of the Groom may not be the star of a wedding, but it's still a very special day for her. So finding an appropriate Mother of the Groom dress that she likes and feels comfortable in is essential. But it's not just as simple as buying any old dress—a good mom will make sure that her son and future daughter-in-law like the dress, and that it complements (but doesn't necessarily match) the Mother of the Bride and the rest of the wedding party.
Talk to the Mother of the Bride
Start off by finding out what the bride's mother plans to wear, and take your cues from her. After all, you won't want to be in a casual suit if she's in a ball gown. You'll also need to know what color she is planning to buy, as you'll want to coordinate, but not match exactly.
For example, if she says she's wearing a champagne colored ball gown with sequins, maybe you'll want to wear a lavender or silver ball gown. If she's wearing a more casual outfit like a classic blouse and sweater for an outdoor wedding, perhaps you'll want to wear a simple dress. She or the couple may have specific ideas about what you should wear - if their opinions conflict, it's best to defer to the bride.
Where to Shop
Look at department stores, bridal salons, and really anywhere you shop for evening clothes. While you may find stores that sell specific mother of the groom dresses, make sure you check that price tag – some places think they can charge more for a dress that's intended for a wedding. For a more casual wedding, you may find a dress at Ann Taylor, JCrew, Talbots, or a local boutique.
Why Can't the Mother of the Groom Wear What She Wants?
First of all, you'll want to be coordinated with the rest of the wedding. If everyone else is wearing light colors, you'll stand out garishly in a bold red dress. You also won't want to upstage the bride or her mother, causing hurt feelings. But, you should still look like yourself, and feel comfortable in what you're wearing. While you need to coordinate with the Mother of the Groom, wearing dresses that match in length and formality, you need not look like twins. Hopefully, you'll find a dress that you'll be able to wear again.