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Giving a Best Man Speech

The Do's and Don'ts of Giving a Best Man Speech, and an Example to Start You Off

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Someone once said that delivering a best man speech is a little like being asked to kiss the Queen Mother; it's a great honor but nobody wants to do it! If you have been asked to speak at a wedding, don't worry, it's not as hard as it looks. As long as you speak from the heart, and keep it simple and sweet, your best man speech will go perfectly.

Do's and Don'ts of Giving a Best Man Speech

Do keep it personal
Don't make it embarrassing

Do make a joke or two if you want to
Don't make it so funny that the bride and groom won't be laughing

Do take the time to say what you want to say
Don't talk just for the sake of talking; don't upstage the bride and groom

Do thank the people who helped make the day possible, especially the parents of the bride and groom
Don't forget their names

Do try to relax before you get up to speak
Don't drink so much that you can't keep your composure

Writing a Best Man Speech

In this article, tips for giving a best man toast, you'll find how to approach the task, including beginning, middle, and end. You may also want to look through our collection of short sample wedding toasts for inspiration.

Example of a Best Man Speech

Everyone – if I could get your attention. I'd just like to say a few words. My name is Mark, and I have the great fortune of being both a great friend of the bride and the older – and wiser – brother of the groom, as well as the best man.

You older brothers in the room will know what I mean when you say you never expect your younger brother to grow up. Somehow, mentally, he will always be the guy pestering you to borrow your bike, or going on his first date, or stealing your favorite comic book and then leaving it out in the rain even though he knew you loved it! But clearly that's ancient history!

And then one day, you turn around, and he's graduating high school, and coming out with you to the bars, and begging you to introduce him to your attractive and smart friend. Or in his words at the time, "Come on! She's really hot and you've already got a girlfriend."

Truth be told, other friends had asked me to introduce them to Julie before, and I'd often dodge the task, if only because I knew Julie to be a genuine catch, and I wanted to make sure I set her up with the right person. So when Jason asked me, I admit, I procrastinated some. But fortunately, Jason isn't one to wait around. One day, I was surprised to see them deep in conversation, and they both had this spark about them that I'd never seen before.

So I may be the older and wiser brother, but in this case, Jason was the smart one because he didn't let a procrastinator get in his way. And I'm so happy he didn't, because Jason and Julie truly bring out the best in each other, encouraging each other's curiosities, supporting each other through the tough times, and cheering each other on always.

Now, if you'll all join me in raising a glass to our happy couple, Jason and Julie. May the joys you share today be the beginning of a lifetime of great happiness and fulfillment. Congratulations.
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