Thursday February 4, 2010
As soon as Dolly Parton's "Marry Me" started playing on my mP3 player today, I couldn't help humming along, tapping my foot, and then quickly envisioning an old fashioned love mix full of songs about getting married. Remember making mixtapes for your sweetheart in high school? You'd painstakingly pick out the songs, plan the order, and write out liner notes, all the while hoping it would magically cause your crush to fall in love with you, leading to happily ever after.
In this mP3 age, mixtapes and even mix CDs are pretty rare, but for a budget-minded Valentine's Day gift, you couldn't get any sweeter. Here's my playlist -- I'd love to hear your suggestions for more songs to add! And incidentally, this would also make a cute playlist for an engagement party or a bridal shower. Read more...
Tuesday January 26, 2010
When it came to our wedding registry, it was a case of indecisiveness gone wild. My partner and I couldn't make up our minds and just choose a store! Part of it was that we felt guilty to be asking for more things when we were already so fortunate. But a lot of it was that I wanted to have a registry full of pretty girly household items while he wanted practical appliances and gadgets. He vetoed my store, I vetoed his, and we ended up with Bed Bath and Beyond (along with a number of charities for suggested donations in lieu of gifts.) If only Amazon.com had their newish Universal Registry in place a few years earlier. Read more...
Wednesday January 20, 2010
Sometimes, it sucks when a friend doesn't invite you to a wedding. Yes, I said "it sucks. Sorry for the minor vulgarity, but there's really just no other word to describe the feeling. It's like being told that you're not as important or as valued as you thought you were. But in this social media age, you can receive that message over and over again as the bride and/or groom's Facebook fills up with wedding plans and photos.
When I got married a few years ago, social media of all forms was far less ubiquitous and I rarely talked about my wedding on Facebook. But I still wonder how uninvited friends felt seeing the photos afterward. Did they say, "Hey, I'm better friends with those two than Suzy Q, and she's in so many pictures!" Or were they simply happy for us? I guess I'll never know. Now another wedding-planning friend is filling her status updates and tweets with dress shopping and cake tasting, and I'm wondering if I'll be invited, and if not, how I'll feel.
What about you? Are you talking about your wedding on Facebook? Has doing so led to anyone assuming they would be invited?
Friday January 15, 2010
Office politics can create some sticky situations, especially when you're not invited to a coworkers wedding. Weddings reader HelloThere06 writes in our forums:
I work with a group of 20 people.One of the female workers is getting married. I have (at least I thought I did) a good relationship with this person. She recently passed out invitations to everyone else (people that she is close with but also others that she doesn't really have any contact or relationship with) in the group except for me. All day, the group talks about it or I hear her making plans for the wedding as she sits in cubicle next to my cubicle. It is obvious to most that I am only one not invited. It is embarrassing and I don't understand it. Recently, we are in meeting where everyone is talking and debating about this event (including our bosses) and it is blatant and evident that I have been excluded. How do I handle this situation in a professional/best way? Am I required to participate in any events that relate to this event? Like a meeting that has been scheduled to have a work bridal shower?
How would you handle this situation? Ordinarily I'd say to accept the fact that you didn't get invited, but to try to put your best and most professional foot forward. Go to the bridal shower, wish her well, and try to forget about it. But it really does sound in this case like there might have been a mixup. Perhaps it would be best to find another coworker who can casually ask if everyone in the group is invited to the wedding. That way, if indeed the omission was intentional, a messy confrontation is avoided so that your working relationship can be preserved. What do you other readers think? Am I right or totally off base? Sound off in the weddings forums!
