Before you decide to elope, you should carefully consider the pros and cons. Most couples who elope say that they want to save money (even a combination eloping and honeymoon typically costs tens of thousands dollars less than a traditional wedding) and that they don't want the hassle of months of wedding planning. They may also be avoiding family arguments, especially if one partner's parents disapprove of their choice of spouse, or if a divorced set of parents can't stand to be in the same room together. There's something old-fashioned and romantic about the idea of running off to City Hall. And of course, the stereotypical Las Vegas bride is looking for spontaneity and a fun thrill.
However, there are some disadvantages to eloping. You'll be missing out on celebrating with dear friends and family and some may be miffed that you didn't include them. Mothers of the bride especially tend to have hurt feelings when they find out that their daughters didn't invite them to their wedding. If your parents already don't approve of your fiance, this might be the proverbial straw that broke the camel's back. You'll also be missing out on the chance to fulfill your wedding dreams – instead of looking back on pictures of yourself in a beautiful setting surrounded by loved ones, you might have only a few pics of yourself in an impersonal city hall.
If you and your fiance decide that eloping is the right option for you, consider these variations that might avoid some of the pitfalls of eloping:
- Have a ceremony that's just the two of you, but throw a reception afterwards for all your friends and family.
- Hire a professional photographer to come with you to city hall, then send out great pictures of the event with your wedding announcement.
- Invite your parents and best friends to come with you – the eight or so of you can go out for a celebratory dinner afterwards.
- Elope now, but make plans to have a blowout ten-year anniversary party. You might even include a cheeky note with your wedding announcements saying something like "Our wedding day was just the two of us, but we hope you'll come celebrate when we make it to ten years on June 26, 2014. "
if you do decide to elope, be sure to not act too quickly. Consider carefully where you want to marry, and look into the marriage liscense laws. Many places don't allow you to apply for a license and marry on the same day. This is also partially why eloping to Las Vegas is so popular, as fast marriages are considerably easier there.
You'll also want to think about inviting a few guests. Some couples invite only their best man and maid of honor, others invite their parents. Of course you don't have to invite anyone; typically court clerks can stand in as witnesses.
