Choosing a wedding date is a little bit like playing Tetris. Trying to fit together all of the different elements to consider can be a bit tricky, especially with 365 (or more) days to choose from. Here are the major things you should think about when choosing a wedding date:
Consider the Seasons of Potential Wedding Dates
Perhaps the first thing to consider is what season you want to get married in. Do you want the beauty and lushness of spring flowers, the warmth of summer, the coziness of fall, or a winter wonderland wedding? If you are a teacher, summers might be best. For tax accountants, spring is definitely out. Spring Wedding IdeasSummer WeddingsFall Wedding IdeasWinter Wedding Theme
Which Day of the Week?
Do you definitely want a Saturday wedding, or do you want to save money by having it on a Sunday or weekday? Do religious observances, like the Jewish or Christian Sabbaths mean that either Saturday or Sunday weddings aren’t an option? If most of your wedding guests are in town and not traveling, you might also consider having a weekday wedding, when there will be discounts and more availability of premium locations and vendors.
Marking Special Occasions with Your Wedding Date
Many couples love the idea of getting married on Valentine’s Day (February 14th), or The Sweetest Day (October 18th). You could get married on the anniversary of the day you met, or honor your parents or grandparents by choosing their wedding date. (If your parents are divorced, you probably don’t want to make them uncomfortable by getting married on their wedding date.) You could get married on one of your birthdays, or on the anniversary of a favorite moment in history – like Queen Victoria’s wedding date, for Victorian-themed weddings.
How Long Should Your Engagement Be?
I think that a year is a good amount of time to plan a wedding, while not stressing out. Other people think that spending an entire year is unnecessary and torturous. It’s certainly possible to have a very short engagement or one that spans several years.
Prioritize Your Different Desires
You may have to make some hard choices. If one of you really wants to get married on your anniversary, but it falls on a Friday, and the other really wants a Saturday evening wedding, you’re going to need to find a compromise. Each of you should rank what is most important to you. Perhaps there's something else that one of you wants (say a favorite wedding band, or to avoid the receiving line) that you can trade for your choice of wedding date.
Make Sure You Avoid Certain Wedding Dates
The last thing you want to do is have your wedding on Super Bowl Sunday, or on an important religious holiday. You want wedding guests to be happily present, not resentful or secretly listening to the big game. I’ve put together this list of wedding dates to avoid
so you won’t accidentally make a huge mistake.
Consult Key Participants
If your sister will be in the midst of college finals, or your parents will be in Aruba, that’s not a good wedding date. Don’t worry about too many people, only those who absolutely must be there.
Consult Your Favorite Wedding Locations and Vendors
If you really want your wedding ceremony
at your church, or the reception at your town's most beautiful hall, you’ll want to make sure they’re available before you start sending out Save the Dates. Most people won’t change their wedding date just because their favorite photographer isn’t available, but if that’s important to you, you’ll want to book him or her first before finalizing your wedding date. Not having the very best location or vendor won’t mean disaster, but their availability is at least something to consider.